How to Release Control: Let Them

Have you ever tried to fix someone else’s problem but they didn’t take your advice?

Nah...not you? It's just me? Ohhh okay!!  😂

Having kids will test you for a time or two!! 😂 

As a former high school teacher and administrator,  I’ve experienced many days where I shared advice with teenagers and they did the opposite. I’ve always wondered why they didn’t listen to the sound advice given? 🙄

Then it happened closer to home with a friend. 

A few years ago, a friend suddenly stopped returning my calls. At first, I panicked. What did I do? 🧐Did I say something wrong? Should I chase after them, demand an explanation, or try harder to win their attention?

But then, I heard simple yet powerful TRUTHS that I now live by:

• It is what it is.

• Control what YOU can control.

• AND let go.

Similar sentiments could be found in Mel Robbins’ book Let Them which is built on this freeing principle. Stop trying to control people’s choices, reactions, or commitment to you. Instead…

• Let Them show you who they are.

• Let Them walk away if they want to.

• Let Them step up if they choose to.

🙌🏾 Your energy is better spent on those who truly show up for you. 🙌🏾

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Doing this is easier than it sounds!!

I know because I’ve learned it firsthand. I know it can be hard to push forward when you don’t understand the FULL story, but I’ve learned wasting time figuring out why THEY’VE made their decisions without talking with me only disrupts MY PEACE AND ain’t nobody got time for that!! 😂 

To release control, I shifted how I operated.

• I decided to live differently.

• I decided to ignore the foolishness. 

• I decided to accept what is and move forward with MY life.

  I can control ALL of this!!

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Please hear me out!

It took time to learn to do this BUT releasing control released me from expectations that I put on myself AND I didn't have to do it. Here are a few more tips!

I let people make their own choices.

• Instead of fighting for approval, forcing connections, or pulling people to like you, let them be who they are. If someone consistently chooses not to prioritize you, let that reveal where you stand in their life without chasing, convincing, or overexplaining.

I redirect my energy to what I can control.

• When you stop trying to control others, you regain power over your own life. Shift your focus from why aren’t they showing up for me to how can I show up for myself? Invest in people and opportunities that reciprocate your energy.

I trust that the right people will stay.

• You don’t have to force relationships that are meant to thrive. The right people, whether in business, friendships, or partnerships, will naturally stay, support, and grow with you. If you have to beg for someone’s time, attention, or respect, they’re not truly yours to begin with! Boom!! 🤯

My truth is that when you let them, you free yourself. You open space for deeper, healthier, and more authentic relationships—ones built on mutual trust.

So, release what’s not meant for you, and watch what (or who) chooses to stay. Which area of your life needs more of a let them mindset?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

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