Dancing with Disappointments

We’ve all been there before and may have experienced more than one in our lives.

You may have heard:  🥹

• We regret to inform you that we’ve moved forward with another candidate: a job rejection.

• I’m just not looking to be in a relationship right now: a relationship rejection.

• Unfortunately, your submission doesn’t align with our current needs: a business rejection.

• I think we’re in different places in life: a friendship rejection.

• We’ve decided to go with other players this season: a sports team rejection.

• After careful consideration, we regret to inform you that you’ve not been accepted: an academic rejection.

  
  

Facing setbacks that shake our confidence and make us wonder if we're on the right path...

...not only startles and stings, but it hurts - especially if you’ve received multiple rejections.

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I’ve experienced a few rejections and know far too well that on the other side I’ve ALWAYS EXPERIENCED A GREAT BLESSING; yet this does not take away the dance with disappointment I may feel and the story that I may initially tell myself after hearing the rejection.

My truth is that disappointments are inevitable, BUT it doesn’t have to define who I am. 

In fact, it can be the very thing that positions me for greater success.

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To shift my outlook from disappointment to optimism, I practice the following:

• I acknowledge my feelings. It’s okay to feel disappointed and frustrated. Take a moment to process your emotions before moving forward.

• I do not take it personally. Rejection isn’t a reflection of my worth as a person. It might just be about timing, fit, or circumstances outside of my control.

• I reframe the rejection. I view it as a stepping stone, not a setback. Every rejection brings me closer to the right opportunity or path.

• I seek constructive feedback. If possible, ask for feedback. Understanding what I could improve can help me grow and succeed next time.

• I take time to reflect. I reflect on what I can learn from the experience. Were there things I did well? Or things I could have done differently? 

• I practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself. It’s easy to fall into negative self-talk, but self-compassion helps to bounce back quicker.

• I give myself a break. After a rejection, it’s okay to step back for a bit and recharge. Sometimes a little time away from the situation allows for better perspective.

• I keep the big picture in mind. I remember my long-term goals and why I’m doing what I’m doing. A single rejection doesn’t define my journey.

• I refocus and plan my next step. One rejection doesn’t stop the show. I keep my priorities in check. Whether it’s applying for a new job, reaching out to more people, or trying a new approach, I keep my momentum going by focusing on the next opportunity.

• I stay positive and keep going. I keep a positive attitude and maintain my confidence. Persistence is key to eventually finding success. Every no brings me closer to a yes.

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Remember that disappointment is not the end of the story.

If you’re facing a setback right now, take heart, trust the process, embrace the lessons, and keep moving forward. The best is yet to come!

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Until next time, stay inspired and blessed.

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